Saturday, August 28, 2010
Sunday, August 15, 2010
This is precisely why I wanted to blog about my own grieving process… of course I wanted to share my dad’s story… and share memories… but this is what gets to me!
What is Prolonged Greif Disorder (formally known as Complicated Grief Disorder)? It is just another way of saying “get over it already”
According to http://www.grief-healing-support.com/complicated-grief.html, I have PGD... and should seek treatment…HA!
You also have PGD if you experience at least one of the following symptoms
Intrusive thoughts related to the lost relationship
Intense feelings or emotional pain, sorrow, or pangs or grief related to the lost relationship
Yearning for the lost person
Hi… who doesn’t yearn for the person they have lost?
You also have PGD if you have been mourning your loss for more than “six months”…. hmmmm well I am now in month 7 and while I am healing I am also doing so ON MY OWN TIME!
So wait.. now that I know that I have PGD how.. oh how.. do I treat it?
“Get more sleep, manage stress and emotions, practice relaxation techniques, and pay attention to life in the moment and without judgment...”
Hmmmm sounds to me like a coping mechanism for a little thing called LIFE!!!!
And there it is right there… this is life.. loss is a part of life… and while there are better ways to live we all have to choose our own paths… that being said…there is no guide book or guide lines as to how to deal with loss.. there is no time line for grief…. I have said it many times.. this is a loss one carries forever… it is not a wound that can be healed… one simply learns to live with it….
So.. if you have stumbled upon my blog following the loss of a loved one.. and you are now part of a club that no one wants to voluntarily join.. then know this… your story is your own… your feelings are your own… if my blog or blogs like mine help you in your process then I will be so very happy.. but please do not let anyone tell you HOW TO GRIEVE and know that there is nothing wrong with you!
Grief-healing-support my big ol’ behind!